I know a lot of single mothers. My mum was one. I was one. Its hard yakka! I didn't appreciate all my mum done for us as kids until I had the experience of being a single parent. I didn't have a lot of support from Lucas' sperm donor from the start, so I was used to doing things on my own when I finally decided it was time to get rid of the shit in our lives! I didn't write this to talk about all the bad things he put us through, but I will say that Lucas seen and was exposed to far too much negativity. I have been truly blessed to find a man that has taken on the role of Daddy to Lucas. He is amazing. He is a great role model and I have seen so much change in Lucas since he came into our lives. We are so lucky to have you Matthew and we love you very much!
Before Matthew came along, I don't know how Lucas and I would have gotten through some nights if we hadn't of had a routine. I took a very relaxed approach and found that it was great for us both. Lucas was rarely naughty and I was less stressed. I done my house duties while he had his day nap and we would lay in bed watching movies together until he fell asleep of a night. Yeah sure, it was a bad habit to get into but it worked for us. I think the biggest part of being a single parent is finding what works for you and your children, but the best part is not having to share them with anyone. If that makes me greedy, so be it! I loved having Lucas all to myself.
I know how it feels to have a father who likes alcohol more than his family. I can't complain, apparently I was my Dad's favourite but where is he now? Where has he been for the last 20 years? I can't even tell you the answer to that. I can tell you that I would never, ever want to see him again after all that he has done. I was so young when I seen what I did, but it has stuck with me and I am so glad my mum left when she did. I know why she stayed for as long as she did, because I was in that same position once. You only want what is best for your children and you'd like to think people can change for the sake of their offspring.
I just want to give a shout out to all the single mums I know. You are doing an amazing job! Don't ever doubt yourself, you have more strength than you know. Your children will be so thankful for all that you have done for them when they are older.
And a warning for all the dead beat dads - even at the age of 3, I didn't forget. Your children will NEVER forget! Think about that when you turn your back on them!
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